The real truth of life Part 1

WOW, I just realised it is nearly two months since I last wrote on here and since then, quite a bit has happened. Two of my closest friends are now married, I have a new job which I am really enjoying, I am doing loads of really exciting things but I think the best thing of all has been that God has been revealing to me a lot of wisdom recently, and that's I guess what this post is all about.

I've realised in the last few weeks, that there are so many myths that I have spent my many years believing that I now realise, aren't the truth at all. These are things that have stopped me from achieving what I needed to and when I sit here now and think about them, I am sure they are also things others are either going through or have gone through, so I thought I'd share them here to offer support and a common sharing to those who might need it.

Myth Number 1- You need to do something amazing to be successful.

For a long time in my life, I believed that it was only through doing amazing things that one became a success. I read so many stories of famous people who got their big break and it was that one moment that made them the people they were today, and so I spent large amounts of my time chasing that one moment. What it meant though was that I was never satisfied with where I was at as I always searching to get to that great day when I will do something amazing and everyone will love me for it, not realising that I was doing amazing things in what I was doing and people were loving me for it already.

Truth: To be successful it is about doing great things every day of your life. Even in the little things, if you do them with the passion you have for your biggest dreams, you will be successful. We need to do the little things right to make the building blocks for the bigger things, so start small, work hard and you will see results.

Myth Number 2- If you're achieving your goals now, you're a failure.

Yes, this might sound really silly, but this was my belief for a long time (probably until the last year). I was always trying to achieve my goals in my time, not realising that in the end, it's God's time, not mine and he decides when I get things done. There's no truth to this rumour at all, because firstly, now might not be the time God needs you to achieve your goal and secondly, there maybe a much for pressing matter or need that has to be dealt with first before you move to this goal or there maybe something you need to do first to achieve this goal. As I said in the post before, there's no use achieving a goal if there's no building blocks behind it and you're going to stumble right away.

Truth: It is really true what they say- life is about the journey, not so much the destination. I've written about this before, but I'll re-iterate. It's important to have a goal and to aim for it- this gives us purpose and reason to live life- especially if your goal is to be the best person God calls you to be. You must however, be willing to enjoy the journey along the way. There's going to be great highlights and tough struggles but every moment, if you embrace it, will prove a useful experience. The struggles teach us what we need to give to God and also give us the strength to fight and support others who might go through our struggles in the future- while the highlights, well they are there as chances to remind ourselves in the tough times that there's always a light at the end of the tunnel- but if we're too busy looking at what we haven't achieved, we will miss them and remain in the darkness.

Myth Number 3- I need to be in control of my life, right now to be truly happy

Similar to the point above, I always felt I needed to be in control of my life to be happy. This meant that I would worry as I wasn't in a relationship when others were, I would worry I didn't have a job when others did, I would worry that I wasn't doing as well as others. I was at a meeting at work the other week and we were talking about the idea that when a situation confronts us, we are automatically set into the flight position as we fear it, but we need to be able to move towards the fight position, so that while we don't have to argue about it, we can confront it and see the truth. In this case, it was my perceived reality that if I wasn't where I needed to be and in control, life was a mess and I was going to be seen that way- but the truth is so far from this it is.

Truth: What I've realised, is that life is full of moments of not having control, but that is because it calls us to trust in the one who knows better than us on so many things, and that is of course God. I might not have it all together at the moment, but for the first time in probably 10 years, I am feeling alive, loving life and am excited about the things that are happening. I know this is because unlike before, I'm now trusting God to deliver in his own time. I might want many things, a person to spend a lifetime with, a job that will help me get to my goal of being a motivational writer, a way to give of myself to help make a difference to all, but I also know that this will be done in God's time, not mine. There's so many minutes left in this life and so many more in eternity and God's plan is so much greater than anything I could imagine, so I just need to keep doing what he's calling me to and trust in that. Yes it's hard, but it's so much easier than spending everyday worrying about what is going to happen next.

There's many more myths that I know I could write about and I'm sure I will in due course, but I think the key to them all is that when we are feeling stressed out, worried or feel as if our lives have lost their direction or course, to take time out and search for the real truths. It's really easy to get wound up in the problems of life, but while it maybe harder to accentuate the positives, this is where you will find the real joys of life and with that, be able to live out life to the best you can and get the most out of it, and isn't that what we all really want?

Till next time..